Whenever you're taking something for yourself, you're taking something from other others. It's the mob mentality, and regardless of what one believes is his/her reason for taking, others will feel like they have a little bit less after everything is said and done. There is a limited amount of resources and rewards and money available in the world, we're told this from day one, and if you either take a resource or award, that it's now become yours. Which by association implies that it's no longer theirs. When we try to think of reasons behind our desire, we mostly focus on what we want. We often say "I just want what I want", but in the real world, the world outside our heads, we're actually taking a finite resource and putting our flag on it. It's might be a physical resource, or intangible resource (such as speaking time at an event), but regardless of the nature of object of our desire, we often meet a tremendous amount of resistance to many of the things that we want. BUT there is a bright light... because people are willing to give a little bit.
To explain the situation, describe the scenario where you walk into a bank and ask for money. What is the reaction? Now, imagine you ask for money, but on the street. Now, what's the reaction? Now, imagine you ask for money, but from family. Is the reaction different or the same? And as we rise up the ranks and begin being more successful, experienced, and useful, it often becomes easier to acquire things. However, some people actually find it to be the opposite, and experience more resistance as they get older. So why the 2 differences? I think, and this is a theory, that it's not the world which provides resistance, but ourselves which place limitations on what we find 'acceptable' and consider a reward. To explain, think of a progress a child makes in mental and social growth compared to a senior citizen. Sure, some of it is biology, but a large part of it is that the child is open and willing to experience new things, simply for the experiences and not the rewards, while a senior citizen has already seen life, and received great rewards, and is no longer motivated to live through new experiences. Another possible reason: as we go through life, we develop more white-blood cells that help us combat diseases. But we also learn which foods to avoid, which to eat, and how it tastes. Later in life, we refer back to the knowledge and it helps us stay healthy. But this way of thinking, if taken on for too long, can lead to a lack of improvement in our white-blood cells and immune system. It's been scientifically proven that an organism which reduces it's stimulation points also reduces it's chances of survival. So perhaps the way to get more things out of life is to be like a kid, always trying new things, learning which ones are good, and then instead of sticking with the good ones, actually moving on to trying new things, and repeating this cycle. Instead of the cycle of Learning things > Realizing which ones are good > Sticking with the good ones for life, we should follow this cycle: Learning things > Realizing which ones are good > Sticking with the good ones for a while > Trying new things > Learning Things >... (a circular graphic from one of those PPT slides would be good)
However, if you want to understand the key to being 'successful' (instead of 'happy', which has a different path), continue reading... People want to see how another person's actions will benefit them, and people want to know about what actions you're going to take so they can think the pros and cons through in their head. Unless they trust you. People are looking to make a commitment, and if your actions even SEEM like they could improve their situation, they'll make a commitment to your actions. The key to being successful is focusing on your actions and on other people's situations, instead of the other way around.
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